The past is gone..move forward

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do,forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14

The past is just that..gone,over with,something that happened before.

Letting go of the past and moving forward is one of the hardest things to do. The enemy loves to remind us of our past so we can not let go and move on. We find ourselves giving to much time to how and what has and hasn't happened in our lives keeping us paralyzed and stagnant. It seems like such a simple thing,but yet so hard. 

I know when my children were growing up and found difficult times in there life I always told them " You can't move forward looking back..you will stumble every time" I know you remember as a child how much fun it was to try and walk backwards. It was fun until we fell and scraped our knees and then our mind was on the hurt. This is just how life is today. We find ourselves walking down the road of life and looking back. The pain of the fall and mistakes we made start to hurt and we are consumed in the pain.

In my speaking to others God showed me another vision that I like to use. The grave and death. We are to bury the past and not dig it back up over and over. When something dies it starts to smell rotten and deteriorate.Maybe at some point it was beautiful and had life,but no more. It is buried and covered up for a reason. We can have a beautiful picture in our mind about how it was,but when go back to the grave and look that picture soon changes.

I stand here today and say we all have a past.It is a daily choice to bury it and not allow the mind to dwell there. God has given us the power to cast these thoughts down. The same power that we have to cast the thoughts down is the same power we have to move on.

We have to stop listening to the lies and grasp the promises.

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken
Psalm 55;22

Where are our values today?

It has been a good day today I got in a good workout,came home and made a big pot of soup and now im sitting here alone with my fur babies.
One of the key words is ALONE. I have really had a heavy heart lately to see the value that people put in marriage and relationships these days. It seems every where I turn homes are breaking up and people are giving up. What happen to for better or worse,in sickness and health until death parts us? We have become such a fast fix it, selfish nation that we have allowed it to enter into our homes and lives. I look around and I see so much pain and brokenness.Adults wondering how to go on and children having to suffer. 

I'm not sure if this burden is stronger for me because I have lived it or what. I know God has spoke to me and said that which the devil meant for bad I will use. I take that to mean that he has used this process to prepare me to help others facing pain. I ask myself "Who am I" just a vessel that is willing to share a testimony. Yea I know most testimonies have a happy ending and I am still claiming mine. With all the destruction going on in marriages and relationships it doesn't make it easy. I have been single going on four years and I have met some bruised and abused men. Each time I meet someone and hear the stories I question...where are values? When did women stop being what God says we should be? When did men stop loving like Christ loved his bride? The picture in this world that we have painted before us sure isn't the

picture God has for us. I hate to see so many with hopelessness in their faces. I for one am holding on to the hope because Genesis 2:18 "The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Yes that is the truth...Man does need woman and we are to be his helper and in return we need them. I believe there is strength when a husband and wife team follow God. When we set Godly examples for the youth of today then we will start to see less destruction. It is a team effort and a team has two or more. Marriage and relationships can not be one sided.My desire is for my team to have three that is God as the center.Satan knows this and that is why he is out to destroy the home.

Now let me get back to how easy it has become to walk away. I have heard it all for sure..she didn't do this right..he never did this. All excuses because we are none perfect and we all have issues. Real love sees the faults and loves them anyway. We will none see perfection until Jesus comes back so isn't it time to stop running? Isn't it time we study more on what God says is our duty?

It is usually to late when we find out the "Grass isn't greener on the other side" it still has to be mowed,weeded and taken care of to make it beautiful!!!

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a 

(English Standard Version) 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (ESV)

It's been WAY to long

It has been Way to long..I feel like I abandoned my friends!!! Is it okay if we call it Summer break? Thanks I knew you would all agree. It has been in action packed Summer and I have been running the roads. My sweet daddy always called me "Road Runner" so I guess that makes it okay. I have truly missed all of you,but did enjoy my time away. So much has happened since I checked in last I don't know where to start. I have been on trips,went to concerts,visited family and even got to enjoy the birth of my new granddaughter.

My three weeks away started with my trip to Louisiana for the birth of Chloe' .I arrived to get to spend time and stay in the home of my baby son Chancey and Charlie. It was so much fun to get to be in his home with his family. The day after I got there it was an honor to be in the room and witness Chloe' being born. The memories that were made during this time can never be taken away. 

I also got to spend time with my daddy and sister while I was home. We did way to much cooking and eating.

Loved getting to visit with my daddy

Spending special time with my sister is always fun.

I am one happy Nana

After a few weeks in Louisiana I got to go on an amazing trip to Atlanta. I had never been there and it was so much to see. The trip was to attend a pinning for a beautiful girl that is making her dreams come true in nursing.It was such a blessing to be included in this special event.I must say it was a fun packed weekend..site seeing..dancing..and making great memories. The fun didn't stop there though.On the way back home we stopped in Jackson for a Darius Rucker concert..Yep you all know how much I love Rucker. I am so thankful for all of the special things I got to do this Summer.

It does feel good to be back home and get ready for Fall and most of all get back in the gym. 

Stone mountain 

Visiting Martin Luther Kings home and grave was amazing.

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Do life's bruises follow you??

Today Im writing about something that has been on my mind and that I have talked to others about." Do the life's bruises follow you in life?" Bruises and trauma in life can come in many different ways. It maybe a divorce,abuse,finding out you were adopted and many other areas. Just lately when trying to start my life over have a realized just how bruised I am from my marriage and divorce. I started to see this when it caused issues in my life today. It may seem simple and crazy to many,but it happens.Have you ever had such a desire to be loved? Oh I know we all have because this is how God made.I am talking about the simple acts to show love.Coffee in bed, holding your hand when you step up stairs,opening your door,Ironed your clothes? These are very simple things that only take a minute,but speak so loud. Who would ever think these things would be hard to except right? I have realized that bruising from your past can cause this to feel abnormal when it is really the normal..the way things should be. Showing love and care in the small ways can go very far and make a big impression.
Something else I have noticed that can cause problems is harsh words. When you have never been built up and spoken positive about it really causes damage.Hearing people cut you down and lie about you becomes so strong that you start to believe it.Proverbs tells us life and death are in the tongue."Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" 
Yes when we speak to and about other we can bring them life or death. Do we even realize sometimes what we are doing? I really don't think when it is taking place we do,but sometimes people are just that mean. I think the question is how to over come this? How do we remove the pain and allow the good feeling to replace? I am still trying to do this,but I think God is the only way. Asking to to mend and fix the pain we have been through. Jesus is there to heal the broken and bruised.

Pleasing others...Acing your age....Living life

I was sitting outside this morning having coffee doing some thinking and wondering what I would Blog about. As I sat there I started to think about how since the age of 18 I had been married and soon after having babies. At that point in my life my world became all about being a wife and mommy.I never really realized until my divorce how I had lived to make everyone around me happy and put me on the back burner. I guess it comes from being a pleaser at heart. I thought pleasing others and making them happy would make me happy.
When I walked in from having my coffee I signed on FB and a friend had posted the photo above and it had me thinking for sure. I'll never forget when my husband walked out how lost I felt. I wasn't a wife anymore and all the kids had left home. I looked in the mirror one morning and didn't even know the woman I had become. I realized I had put my likes aside for everyone around me and I knew at that point I had to start to live again. Yea yea I know others look at me and say "She acts like a kid" maybe I do and what is wrong with that? There are so many things I desired and loved to do in life that I never did and why not now? I used to hear others say "Age is a number" "Your as old as you feel" I truly understand those words now.
I have always had a young heart and loved adventure...living life on the edge is what feeds me. So when I found this picture it reminded me that I gave my life for others and it is my turn to be happy!!! If my being happy and not always acting my age bothers you then don't watch me because that is just what I'm going to do.NO im not doing things crazy that would hurt my children because they will always be first,but I am me and love it!!!
So today if you have pushed that person God made you to be deep down please let him or her out...LIVE

The Cross Roads in life

Have you ever been going down the road of life and came to a
" Cross Roads" and pondered which way do I go? You stop and glance down each road and they all look right,but you know deep inside one has to be the right way...each road leads some where,but where?
I have to say in the past three years after my separation from my EX I have been at many "Cross Roads". So many times I just headed out  and had to turn around and come back after realizing I was headed in the wrong direction. I feel deep in my heart there has to be path for me...a path that as I stay on it leads me by beautiful pastures. I think I am coming up to a " Cross Roads" in my life again and im so afraid to pick. What if it is wrong? Will I be wasting time or is this finally the road that takes me where my hearts desire is? I know getting on this road will lead me away from people and things in my life that I have got comfortable with. 
So today I stand here at the "Cross Roads" what will I do? I think I will just stand here and look each way ....maybe I will sit down and ponder...It is kinda pretty from where I stand.

Looking back on the change

Today I updated a picture on my Facebook and decided to add one from the gym. As I sat and looked at the photo I seen a different woman. Not only in the past few months has the body started to change,but so much more.1)  I can have the courage to step out and do things I never would. 2) I can be a leader to others because of where I have been. 3) I have a drive and determination that has been buried for so long. You ask did this just happen over night? I promise you it has been a change that has taken place over the years. I think each and everything that I have gone through has made me a stronger woman. Where once I used to run from things, I now hit them head on. I'm reminded of a quote from the movie "Dirty Dancing" where Patrick says " No body puts baby in a corner" See I got tired of being shoved to the side,hurt and not appreciated. I got up and took my life back and you can do the same. All you have to do is make up your mind and take steps toward your goal. One day you will "Look back on the change"

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